My grandmother said that it is a good thing to be grateful. Science says even more. Gratitude is related to greater happiness since, according to indicate from Harvard Universitysaying thank you can increase the release of dopamine, and gratitude “helps people feel more positive emotions, enjoy good experiences, improve their health, cope with adversity, and build strong relationships.” Furthermore, it has been related in some investigations with a significant reduction in our stress levels and people with a lifestyle based on gratitude, manage chronic pain better. Expressing gratitude can change your life.

That is why we wanted to collect six phrases that demonstrate ingratitude and are a demonstration of unhappinessbecause it is always a good time to change and include gratitude in our lives.

“You owe me one”

According to a study from the journal Personality and Social Psychology Ungrateful people tend to focus excessively on what they lack in life.instead of what they already have. By doing so, they inadvertently inhabit a dissatisfaction that can create a toxic foundation for relationships. When we empathize, thank and express gratitude to another person, there is an increase in trust and intimacy. However, if when we do something for another person we do it thinking that they owe us, we are not being generous or practicing gratitude, we are only doing it to receive a later benefit for it.

“Why do I only exist when you need something?”

When we practice gratitude daily, and according to a study by American Psychologistthe relationships we have tend to experience fewer negative emotions, something that does not happen the other way around. When we don’t prioritize gratitude in our lives, we tend to experience more uncomfortable emotions like guilt or shame, and even, we can develop the feeling that we have the right to everything just by existing, and we can think that the people around us only look for us for what we give them or do for them, without realizing what they do for us and without understanding that relationships are not unilateral, but bidirectional.

“I was there when you had no one.”

An ungrateful person is not truly loyal and urges in relationships that the other person “work” for the relationship, as if they were obligated to do so. This is something that manipulative people use to isolate their partners of their friends, family and inner circles to exercise greater control over them. By suggesting that they were there when their partner “had no one,” they can manipulate their partner’s emotions and experiences to better suit their interests and needs, and force the other person to stay by manipulating their feelings of gratitude.

“You never thank me when I do things for you.”

A 2023 study on gratitude suggests that children who grow up with caregivers and parents who prioritize gratitude in their lives tend to have better social relationships and more balanced emotional health than those who do not practice it. If as parents we expect gratitude in response to every action we do with our children, they will learn that behavior and They will demand in their relationships that they be thanked for behaviors and actions that are simply normal. A healthy relationship.such as open communication or honesty. Obviously we all like to be thanked, but we cannot expect the other person to do so for every act of love we do for them.

“Why do you always make me feel like this?”

An ungrateful person is not able to take charge or take responsibility for their actions and expect others to sacrifice their emotional well-being to support them in any way possible. According to this study on guiltmost ungrateful people resort to this practice to “save face” when faced with the consequences of their own actionseven reaching victimize yourself to manipulate those around you.

“I always feel unhappy and I don’t know why”

Dr. Robert A. Emmons of the University of California at Davis and Dr. Michael E. McCullough of the University of Miami conducted a study on gratitude published in the Harvard Health Publishing who maintained that People who express gratitude more frequently are generally happier than those who do not.. According to these experts, ungrateful people often feel chronically dissatisfied in many aspects of their lives, from their personal development to their relationships.

Perhaps the secret to happiness lies in realizing all the good that surrounds us instead of constantly thinking about what we don’t have, and for that there is nothing better than setting out to do this year. a gratitude journal in which to write every day what we are grateful for. Saint’s hand

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